Why Do Foreign Men Need So Many Women?
Japanese women who have never dated a foreign man seem shocked when they consider how many girlfriends (lovers) a foreign man has at one time. Of course, Japanese women who've dated three or more foreign men feel that three or more girlfriends at one time is many. In either case, Japanese women appear to be more accepting of that possibility than Western women. The question almost all of them ask is, "Why so many?" There seems to be acceptance that foreign men like sex more than Japanese men. However, the reality is that Japanese men appear to read more sexually oriented comics and magazines (in full view of women on public transportation and in buildings), and spend money on various sexual services. So the fact may be that Japanese men like sex as much as Western men, but don't pursue sex as frequently in the form of relationships. Western men do more to maintain sexual frequency in their lives by having more than one girlfriend.
A look at statistics will show that women in other countries have more sex (not to say that they enjoy it more) than women in Japan which may be less than four times a month. In other countries three to four times a week is more common. Sexual desire isn't reduced just because a Western man lives in Japan, so he seeks more lovers than the Japanese man. Men from other countries face several challenges in having a sexual relationship in Japan. The workaholic lifestyle in Japan makes it difficult for a Western man to have a sexual relationship that is similar to what he may have had in his home country. Overtime is frequent and women often socialize with coworkers instead of returning home or meeting their lovers or husbands. With an average commute time of 40 minutes by train, which stop running around 2430, women are too tired or concerned about getting up early to get the train to go to work. Additionally, many Japanese men haven't shown women how relaxing and stress reducing sex can be. Instead, men have centered on their own pleasure, and as such there's no reason for many Japanese women to be really interested in sex. This is NOT saying most Western men are much better lovers, but the ladies first attitude and generally being more sensitive goes a long way in seducing a Japanese woman. While there is a perception that Japanese women are sexual, the reality is that Western women are more sexual.
Japanese women may be more sensual looking because of their smaller bodies and lower body fat, but that doesn't equate with sexuality. Another possible challenge is that the Japanese female's body can't take the physical aspect of having sex with a foreigner as often. Generally speaking, foreign men are bigger and heavier. Now the "Why?" may have been answered in regards to the number of women a man may have — but the truth remains that in the heart of most women regardless of culture, she only wants the man she cares about to be with her. However, given that the nature of the Japanese lifestyle and the fact that men are generally more sexual than women, this ideal is difficult for Western men for men to live up to.
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