I see so many Western guys in Japan who are completely screwing up their relationships with Japanese women. You start out dating the Japanese girl of your dreams, you think everything is going fine, and then without warning she walks away from you, and most of the time you have no idea why. There are many things that can cause a relationship with a Japanese woman to fail, but most of the time for Western men, the culprit is something that they (the men) did to drive the women of out of their lives. Lots of Western men come to Tokyo and think, “All right, I’m going to get laid with Japanese women!” They have all these grand schemes for how many Japanese women they’re going to pick up. The thing is: you need to have a plan – not just for how to “get” the girl, but for how to “keep” the girl! You are in serious need of some advice about how to keep a Japanese woman once you’ve got her. Be the Man She Was First Attracted To Often a Western guy will get into a relationship with a Japanese woman, and then he lets his appearance slide a bit. He might not dress as nice, might not groom as carefully, or might put on some weight. No wonder the woman left you! You turned from her prince into a frog. Keep up with your good grooming habits. Take a shower, brush your teeth, shave, keep your breath fresh. Be the man she first noticed, not the type of man she would not even pay attention to. Do not expect a woman to be okay with your bad habits. Keep up your appearance and be the kind of man she deserves to be with. If anything, this is even more important in Japan – because Japanese culture places a high value on external appearance. Japanese women love fashion, they always dress well, and they expect their men to do the same. Be True to Yourself…and True to Her If there is any chance of a relationship with a Japanese woman working out, you have to be yourself. Do not pretend to be something you are not. Do not claim to be the president of a company when you are only an office clerk. Do not be false or exaggerate a part of your life. She will find out the truth eventually and the relationship will be over. You can make your job or interests sound a bit more exciting than they really are, but do not make yourself out to be an expert in something you are only a novice at. Women like and appreciate honesty. I know it can be tempting – especially when you’re living in Japan, in a foreign country where no one knows you – to embellish certain aspects of your life story. After all, as an expat in Japan, you probably came here in part to reinvent yourself.
Japanese women want to be with guys who are sincere. You might impress some Japanese women in the short run, but in the long run you’ll lose by not being yourself. Stop the Games Once you are in a relationship with a Japanese woman, stop the dating games men and women play. When you are playing “the dating game” with a woman by playing hard to get, such as not calling for a few days, canceling and rescheduling dates might have seemed okay. But when you are in a relationship, a woman will soon get very tired of waiting around for you. She will start to look for a man who has time for her and values her. The dating games need to stop when you find a Japanese woman who you want to have a relationship with. Do Not Move Too Fast So you think you found the perfect Japanese woman. It has been a few weeks and things are going great in your relationship. That’s exciting! But do not make the mistake of getting too serious too quickly. After a few weeks you are not ready to move in together or plan a wedding. It has only been a few weeks or months, slow down! Getting into a new relationship with a Japanese woman can be a truly intoxicating and exhilarating experience. There’s something so special about being a man in a foreign country and culture, and you find a Japanese woman who really excites you, and the sex is great, and everything seems perfect… But don’t rush into anything. Guard yourself. All too often I hear of foreign men who moan with disappointment when their relationships with Japanese women crash and burn. Take your time, get to know each other and especially make sure you understand the VERY big differences in the role that sex plays in relationships in Japan. (More on this to come…) What mistakes have you heard men make with Japanese women?
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