The Jealousy of Great Sex
Why is it that if a woman obviously enjoys smoking, drinking or eating , it's not really that big of a deal, but if she enjoys sex everybody gasps with such a disgusting glare? How dare she enjoy sex enough to show it! Cigarette smoking can cause cancer, drinking can lead to alcoholism, and overeating to obesity and heart disease. What does too much sex lead to? As a woman, if you are uncomfortable with talking about sex, then maybe you haven't enjoyed it enough- which probably means that you haven't had enough orgasms (or maybe even any at all). However, you shouldn't be angry at women that do talk about it and enjoy it; maybe you could learn something. Perhaps one reason that many women don't like to talk about sexual topics is because many women don't really enjoy the physical aspect of sex. While they may enjoy the emotional aspect of a man caring about them, they could honestly do without the not-so-satisfactory sexual performance. So, take for example a woman who actually enjoys sex. Others ask "How'd she get so lucky?! Damn! And why not me?" Sadly, many women don't have enough sexual knowledge to even admit to having a 'why not me' feeling. So, to answer how she got lucky? Well, she either met a sensitive, patient and knowledgeable man, or she met a man that was smart enough to realize he needed to be taught, and she taught him. Speaking of which, in order to teach, you must know, and sadly many women don't know what sexual pleasure is. Yes, it may feel good or be great exercise, but wouldn't it be great to have the same intense feeling as a man when he's had an orgasm? Men seem to have orgasms so easily.
Well, a knowledgeable woman knows how to please herself first. If you can't please yourself, don't expect a man to. Though pleasing a man is fairly simple, and most woman can attest to that, pleasing a woman takes more time and more variety. There are more differences between women than between men when it comes to pleasurable sex, and a woman must know how to give herself pleasure before she can require it of a man. And she should require it of him. Sex should be more than just the emotional feeling of "He cares for me." He should care enough to please you in the same way he's pleased, and it isn't just emotional either! When he's had his orgasm, he's on the highest of clouds and you should be there with him. As a woman you may need to do some self-discovery in the comfort of your own bedroom. Discover your body so that you can communicate to your lover what makes you feel good. Be patient in the discovery process, because face it, women do take longer to reach orgasm than men. Touch yourself as you would like to be touched.
All women are different; men are not so different. Remember this: you can't teach, show, or tell if you yourself don't know. Basically, men are somewhat ignorant about a woman's pleasure, so he needs all the real help he can get. Don't be afraid of the feelings that go through your body! They are perfectly natural and your body doesn't want you to stop. This process is a must if you really want to get the most from your relationship with your partner. Both of you will appreciate sex more if you are satisfied too. And if both of you are enjoying sex, who cares who's jealous?! They should be learning instead of envying.
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