Tag Archives: Relationships
Streamline Your Dating Process
We strive to streamline our daily lives. We will choose the route home that is most efficient. We have our sofa, TV, and remote in a location that will create the best experience. But when it comes to dating, we plod along in an awkward fashion in the hopes of getting lucky.
What’s In A Word?
Even if you speak the same language, be it English or Japanese, communicating is always a challenge. When you both don’t natively speak the same language the challenge is even greater. Subtleties and innuendos only work if both of you are on the same page and are communicating.
Fixing Bumps In The Road – An Analytical Approach
All relationships run into trouble. When dating a Japanese woman, you are constantly at odds with cultural barriers that can cause friction within the relationship.
Because these frictions are grating against you, it is very hard to analyze the cause and effect and determine if the issues are “relationship threatening” level or if they are just mere annoyances.
Play The Odds | Putting Everything In Your Favor For Success (part 5 of 5)
I knew this British guy while I was in Japan. He had a very different outlook on relationships than I did. He wanted sex, sex, and more sex. If it was female and breathing, he wanted to bed it. I went out with him a couple of times and it was very surreal watching him in action.
Timing Is Everything | Putting Everything In Your Favor For Success (part 4 of 5)
As the saying goes – “There’s a time and place for everything.”
For the most part, Western women respond better to the “Take Charge” approach. The banter back and forth and the sport of the chase and the hunt is the normal dating ritual for the Western culture. This approach may work for some Japanese women, but, on a whole, a subtler approach is needed.
Say What You Mean | Putting Everything In Your Favor For Success (part 3 of 5)
Generally speaking Japanese people are more indirect, vague, and overly polite when it comes to communication. This, for the most part, is a gross generalization. I have met direct and impolite Japanese people but, compared to Westerners, it can appear to be true.
Dress The Part | Putting Everything In Your Favor For Success (part 2 of 5)
If you are like most men, fashion isn’t your strong suit. Western women have come to understand this and, for the most part, have low expectations when it comes to men and their fashion sense. Unfortunately, Japanese women have grown up with different expectations.
The Art of War | Putting Everything In Your Favor For Success (part 1 of 5)
“The Art Of War” by Sun Tzu (born 500 B.C.) is full of philosophies and strategies for warfare that are still used today. Relationships and dating can, at times, feel like warfare but that isn’t the point of this article.
Common Mistakes – During A Relationship
It's very easy to write about your successes. It's much harder to write about your failures. While I was in Japan I had some wonderful successes and even more spectacular failures. I will share a few of them in hopes that you can learn something from them.
Common Mistakes – Pre and Early Relationships
It's very easy to write about your successes. It's much harder to write about your failures. While I have had some wonderful successes and I’ve had even more spectacular failures. I will share a few of them in hopes that you can learn something from them.
