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Sex Isn’t a Reward for Good Behavior!
A large number of men think, "If I do this for her, she should give me (or want to have) sex!" This is an incredibly immature way to think. Sex isn't a gift or a reward for good deeds or behavior. The feeling of sexual pleasure should be mutually satisfying, and statistically in many cases it's not – for her. It's almost laughable to hear foreign men talk about the sexual times they had with their Japanese spouse before marriage, and how now sex seldom occurs. These men are shocked and angry. Haven't they realized that though many Japanese women appear sexy and attractive that they aren't nearly as sexual as Western women? The statistics are everywhere; Japanese people don't have sex as frequently as other cultures. So what happened?
Get to know her: Ask the right questions
Everyone loves a good listener and nearly everyone knows this, so why is it that men are often poor listeners in relationships? Being a good listener seems to be less of a problem in the workplace than in the home. Listening to others is required at work to get tasks done correctly, and if something is unknown or unclear, questions are asked. That's why communication in work relationships is often better than it is in personal relationships.
The Secret to a good Sex life: Focus on her needs.
I'm always puzzled when Japanese men complain that they don't have enough sex. And the Japanese women complain that they really don't enjoy sex, but they have sex. For the women, having sex is similar to going to work. People work because they need money, women have sex to have a man, boyfriend or husband. Many women don't like sex, just like many women do not like their jobs, but they want money, so they work. Doing does not mean liking. Why is this so difficult for Japanese men to understand?
The Awakening of the Japanese Woman
Writers, filmmakers, and the general public have, for some time, been intrigued with the possibility of A.I. (Artificial Intelligence); so much so that serious concerns have been explored and dramatized regarding the theoretical and imagined problems that could be encountered with its reality. The concern most commonly expressed about the development of A.I. is whether there could be a potential for self-awareness, and then an ensuing struggle for recognition. But, what should be of much greater concern to the Japanese public is the awakening of Japanese women's intelligence, and their potential to become a force for change. This very awakening may well be unfolding before the Japanese public, albeit very slowly, in the guise of an emerging, modern Japanese woman.
The Slavery of the Japanese Homemaker
Can you help me…I feel like I'm your slave", she says. Words of a Japanese woman and homemaker to an American man, echoed by Japanese women to Japanese men everywhere in Japan. Whether she works outside the home or not, the Japanese woman does almost all the home-related chores, while the man, no matter what nationality, many times sits on his butt like lord and master. In all fairness, many foreign-born men do share the workload, and Japanese men are slowly coming around, but the vast majority of women still have two jobs: company and home. Among the items on her lengthy to-do list of household tasks is sex with the husband. In Japan it's stereotypically considered one of those things that's just part of a relationship, whether you're sexually satisfied or not. Because his salary enables you to buy the brand bags and shoes, puts a roof over your head and food on the table, that is if you want to get married.
Sex in such a situation is nothing more than a mechanical act. Can you imagine a man having to perform such a chore with little to no sexual satisfaction? Probably NOT! Such a situation would be tolerated quite a bit less in America. Every woman DESERVES to be pleased. So what's a Japanese woman or any woman for that matter to do?
Japan: Land of the Alone(ly)?
Of recent exploit by the astute Japanese businessman is the hitori sama" phenomenon. Hitori means alone, the and sama give it formal tone. Being alone is quite profitable in Japan.
Proof!! Women don’t Need men!
I'm not sure whether or not to believe this, but Hideo Yamanaka, a doctor at the Toranomon Hibiya Clinic in Tokyo says some women may have a potentially debilitating disease whereby they may have orgasms without what might be considered natural sexual stimulation. Read these links: Japanese English Not so humorous, but considering Japan's declining birthrate and the Japanese woman's perhaps questionable interest in getting married or having sex with men, the Japanese man(in fact the population) is in trouble. Men, you need to change how you think about and treat women.
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On being a feminist in Tokyo
By definition, feminist: a person who supports the belief that women should have the same rights and opportunities as men. Well I guess I am, but for some reason when a Japanese man says that I'm a feminist, I want to say, "I'm not a feminist, I'm just using common sense!"
Romance Is Everyday Sex Isn’t
What do I mean, "romance is everyday sex isn't"? Simple. Ever notice how men are more romantic when they want to have sex? The flowers, compliments, being helpful, paying more attention to their lovers and then, "let's do it?" Come on, guys; be honest.
Just What Do (Some) Japanese Men Think of Women?
The cover of a very popular Japanese women's magazine (an an, dated 2006.5.31, No. 1513) has a nude woman lying down with one of her legs in the air and a pink Valentine heart where her vagina is. Strangely, this monthly magazine isn't considered pornographic, and it features a wide range of life-style articles.
