How to get a Japanese woman?
A female friend of mine showed me a blog post she had found that was written by a man and that listed all the best places in Tokyo to meet Japanese women – and not just where to “meet” Japanese women but what type of woman was at these places and what your chances were of having sex with one of these women.
After reading this blog post I couldn’t help but wonder…. Why did Japanese women become prey to be hunted like animals?
Why are Japanese women considered just an object that men use for sex? Am I the only man who feels this way? I do not think so. Now, I am not a saint, and I enjoy the sexual pleasure that I can help a woman achieve, but it bothers me that so many men see Japanese women as nothing more than sex toys put on Earth for their own personal use and entertainment. How did this happen, and who is to blame? When did women become sex toys and not valued as people?
Do not misunderstand, there is nothing wrong with sex; I love sex, it is like a drug and I love it, but not when that’s all there is. My friend said that only couples want intimacy; strangers are just after pleasure. If that is true, then what happens when those pleasure-seeking strangers become lovers or decide to have a relationship? Chances are the relationship will not last, because the only reason they got together in the first place was to have sex, not to be truly intimate with each other.
Some people might argue that sex is always an act of intimacy. I do not agree. Sex is sex – and there are many kinds of sex, and not all of them have anything to do with intimacy. You can have sex without having a relationship, but you cannot have intimacy without having a relationship.
Real intimacy is a deep emotion that involves some type of commitment between two people. You enjoy spending time with each other outside of the bedroom. You talk to each other; you know details about the other person’s life. You share yourself on an emotional level with another person. Sex is more physical – intimacy is more about emotions. Intimacy is especially important when dating Japanese women because so many of the women have both low sex drives and low sexual competency. This intimacy helps compensate for the low importance that sex has in the lives of Japanese women. Japanese women have become sexual prey because the western man’s desire for sex is higher than the average Japanese woman is accustomed to.
Now for women like my friend who is afraid of being in a relationship, just having sex with another person may work for them in the short run, but no matter how many men she has sex with, she will never find what she is truly looking for. Japanese women who get together to have sex are often thrill seekers or are looking for an easy “English lesson”.
Personally, I don’t mind just having sex with a woman I met at a club if that is all I want that night. But for a relationship, I want to be intimate with a woman. I want someone to share my dreams with; someone I can share my life with. I cannot imagine going through life just having sex with different women night after night. While it may be fun for awhile, it would become routine, and I never want sex to just become a routine. I do not want to become so numb to feeling emotions that I am dead inside.
So maybe just having casual sex and being used as a sex toy by men is all right with some women. You see these Japanese women at the bars in Tokyo – the stereotypical “Roppongi girls” or “English bandits” who go home with a different foreign man every weekend. These women often have self-esteem issues – they don’t think very much of themselves and feel that the only way they can have some value is by being (temporarily, fleetingly) desirable to a man. I feel sorry for those women.
As for me, I am with a woman because I want to be – there’s something fundamentally appealing about her, something that piques my interest, something that makes me want to compliment her and make her laugh and find out what’s on her mind. All of those feelings are part of emotional intimacy – and from my experience, and the experience of most of the women I know, the best sex includes intimate feelings as well as physical sensations.
What is your attitude toward sex and intimacy – can you have one without the other?
Do you think men and women are “wired” differently to appreciate intimacy on a different level?
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