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Sex is one of the most thought about and talked about topics in the world. Yet talking about it, much less admitting that you think about it, is still taboo. Strange that the discussion of the very act that populates the world draws such mixed reactions. For a man, having sex is a euphoric event that drives him to accomplish or to destroy. It’s a goal to be obtained. Having sex is a moment of physical satisfaction to be acquired, almost like a trophy. On the other hand, sex for a woman is a moment shared with the person who’s satisfied her emotionally and makes her feel wanted and special. So from the start, the goals are different. Emotionally satisfying a woman can be easy if a man is paying attention. The question is, “Why do men fail so miserably at sexually satisfying the lover in their life?”
For whatever reason, a man pays just enough attention to a woman’s needs to have sex, or the woman gives the man sex so that she can have her emotional needs met. But in either case, the man usually feels much more physical satisfaction than the woman. Why? Part of the reason is that men are so overcome with the thought of ‘cumming’ that they become selfish. The sexual act itself becomes a form of self-gratification. The other reason is that many men are sexually ignorant and while they may feel a sense of inadequacy, they fail to create an atmosphere where their lover can tell them what they need.
Even the woman who says she doesn’t particularly care for sex has heard about how good sex can be, and surely at one point in her life has wondered what it would feel like. And believe it or not, sex is not just for having children, it can be and should be enjoyed by the woman EVERY TIME.
This site was created for men and women to discover ways to improve their sex lives. 1001 Butterfly Kisses is a very short and to-the-point downloadable book. Men prefer to have brief explanations when possible, especially when it’s about something they think they know about. For women this book will give you ideas on how to say what you want to say to your man. If nothing else, this site will stir emotions and get people talking, and that is always a good thing!
Why do women want sex?
When do women want sex?
What men must remember…
[…that generally speaking, women do not want sex for the same reason men do. If a woman likes you then she may want sex. If a woman loves you, her own sexual satisfaction is less important. Unlike men, women don’t generally desire sex from a purely physical perspective; they desire the mental warmth of a man caring for them. Sex is the way women get men to care for them.
As a man you MUST have the goal of pleasing a woman in a way that makes her feel that maybe only a few men can please her sexually the way you can! Doing this will get rid of the thought that she is ‘giving’ you sex or that sex is work. Sex can be a treat for her, and even women want ‘treats’.
To do this you must control your own desire to have an orgasm and concentrate on what it takes to allow her to have an orgasm first. For a man this takes work, but you have to do it. You have to be willing to experiment, realizing that women require more physical care and stimulation than you do.]
Straight, plain talk about pleasing the woman in your life.
