Mon Jun 09, 2008
Who is the Professional Sex worker?
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Who is the Professional Sex worker?
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In America, women put their nose up at women who work in the sex industry as prostitutes, call girls, or adult video actresses. There may be a couple reasons for this attitude, one is that American women generally feel that they should expect or require sexual satisfaction from the men with whom they have sex. So men that use prostitutes, call girls, or frequently watch adult videos are generally considered losers and so are the women that service them. Generally, professional sex workers don’t expect to have pleasurable sex. The other reason that women in the sex business may be looked down upon is that women feel that selling sex to earn money take little talent or skill and it’s a lazy way to make money.
A similar sentiment may be mirrored in Japan. As a Japanese woman do you think you are ‘better’ than the professional girls that have sex for money? Or better than a sex doll? Those women(or dolls) don’t expect pleasure either – they are paid to open their legs, please their clients and to act pleased. But with the money they earn ,they can shop, dine, and travel as they please. The exception being the doll which the man can put in the closet.
“But I am different! I don’t accept money!” Really? Every time you accept a gift, go to dinner, go on a trip, but, have unsatisfactory sex, you are being paid, exactly the same as the professional sex worker. As a wife, you have the added tasks of caring for his children and his house while you salary includes being able to eat the food that he pays for and living rent free in his house. Those are the facts for many Japanese households, so when the man adds a girlfriend to his life or ‘requires’ sex of you what complaint can you have? Actually, there can be no complaint. There is a saying, “He who makes the money makes the rules.”
Unlike American women there’s a great possibility that you don’t know the pure feeling of relaxation and pleasure that great sex can bring. This feeling can help you to forget the stresses of the day, your irritating boss or a careless colleague. How many times have you experienced this deep sense of sexual bliss? Most of the time that you’ve had sex or made love? Probably not, if one believes the statistics reported on Japan’s sex life. Thus the comparison of the professional sex worker to many Japanese women, neither expect pleasure, but one group is compensated better.
When your boyfriend or husband has sex with you and you haven’t been physically pleased to the point of orgasm, does he ‘love’ you? I was recently shocked to hear a woman say that she didn’t particularly enjoy sex, but the man she’s with loves her! Frankly, he could be just as physically content with masturbating! Except that with masturbation he doesn’t have the warmth of another body. If a man loves you, he should seek out your sexual pleasure before his own.
Remember, sex dolls and women in the sex business don’t require love or pleasure.
Perhaps for that lack of male sensitivity to women Japan is at the forefront of sex doll technology. The realism of the sex dolls if frightening. The fact that there is a market for this product indicates that many Japanese men are perfectly satisfied with and quite possibly would prefer to selfishly please themselves. What a disturbing trend that men are turning to inanimate objects to satisfy their sexual desires.
Though looked down upon, there seems to be a paradox, the professional sex worker may have the best world. If she happens upon a good lover AND she gets paid to enjoy what she’s doing it’s a bonus. To some degree she is in control with no expectation of anything long-term. There is no commitment. While the mental commitment a woman makes when she gives a man sex in hopes of a relationship goes much deeper and quite often less physically satisfying. A woman should expect and require a man to do more sexually, not just feed her, buy gifts, make her a wife and homemaker, bear children, clean up the house, gain weight and grow old and less attractive, and he comes home and does nothing.
Many Japanese women look forward to this fantastic lifestyle, while the man gets a girlfriend, who, by the way, doesn’t receive sexual pleasure either.
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Fri Jan 25, 2008
Japanese Women Looking For Men For Language Exchange
Why do some Japanese women only want men for language exchange? These women say explicitly that they are not looking for relationships, yet they get ‘offended’ when men try to begin a relationship with them. There is absolutely zero logic in only wanting a man for language exchange. Japanese women who are only seeking to improve their English communication skills should find women, or should not complain when men try to start a relationship. Japanese women who only want to learn English from men should go to an eikaiwa!
Perhaps Japanese women who seek only men for language exchange partners fantasize about being with a foreign man, but are actually too afraid to make a commitment? Perhaps they go home and masturbate?
Are Japanese women so ignorant or naive about what most foreign men want? Don’t call it immature, foreign men are just men and they want sex. Why ask them to change. Likewise, women are women, and men shouldn’t ask women to change either. The truth is that foreign men are more sexual and more open about their sexuality and Japanese women are less sexual and less open about it. That is the reality – both sides should accept it. Don’t be offended when men want more than ‘just conversation’.
Foreign men shouldn’t be offended when Japanese women say, “No!” to their relationship advances. Don’t foreign men do their ‘homework’?
First, many of the Japanese women that study English are just lonely women with no real need to learn English. They just want to talk, because they feel stifled in some way. This fact can be proven easily. The eikaiwa industry steals money from thousands of Japanese women (and Japanese men) annually. The average eikaiwa customer only speaks English when they travel, is reluctant to speak outside of a classroom, and eikaiwa regularly give away level certificates and know that the customer cannot communicate in English outside of class.
Some customers just want to talk, while the instructor just listens (but not really). The instructor knows that a native speaker from another country would find the customer unable to express an opinion, and would be bored. In addition, many customers don’t have the heart for real learning, and just want to be able to say “I’m studying English.” In reality, they are actually doing nothing or wasting time. They may be just lonely people.
The fact is eikaiwa are in the money business – only that. Just like the well known internet, construction, and defense companies and architects in Japan - everybody wants to steal from the Japanese consumer.
NOVA was not the only bad eikaiwa, many (perhaps most) eikaiwa are bad.
Second, sex is less important to Japanese women than western women, it’s just fact. That isn’t saying that Japanese women don’t like sex, they just like it or want it less than western women.
Why are foreign men surprised? They have believed what they have seen in the porno movies and magazines - how stupid. The sad truth is that many Japanese women think that by just opening their legs sex will be good for the man and most men(foreign men, too) think that by having a p**** sex will be good for the woman – both are wrong!
Men and women should study the art of sexual pleasure as much as Japanese women study English The average Japanese woman speaks English to a native speaker less 3 – 5 times a year! That’s less than she has sex, what a waste of hundreds of thousands of yen. If she’s healthy, learning about sex is be more useful as she has sex more often than she speaks English.
The more basic point is that foreign men and especially Japanese women should stop wasting each other’s time on language exchange when their actual desires and goals are different.
Would you like to create more love in your life?
Do you have questions about your partner and love?
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Do you want a better relationship?
Would you like to create a plan so you can meet your life’s partner?
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Sun Dec 23, 2007
The Jealousy of Great Sex
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The Jealousy of Great Sex
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Why is it that if a woman obviously enjoys smoking, drinking or eating , it’s not really that big of a deal, but if she enjoys sex everybody gasps with such a disgusting glare? How dare she enjoy sex enough to show it! Cigarette smoking can cause cancer, drinking can lead to alcoholism, and overeating to obesity and heart disease. What does too much sex lead to?
As a woman, if you are uncomfortable with talking about sex, then maybe you haven’t enjoyed it enough- which probably means that you haven’t had enough orgasms (or maybe even any at all). However, you shouldn’t be angry at women that do talk about it and enjoy it; maybe you could learn something.
Perhaps one reason that many women don’t like to talk about sexual topics is because many women don’t really enjoy the physical aspect of sex. While they may enjoy the emotional aspect of a man caring about them, they could honestly do without the not-so-satisfactory sexual performance.
So, take for example a woman who actually enjoys sex. Others ask “How’d she get so lucky?! Damn! And why not me?” Sadly, many women don’t have enough sexual knowledge to even admit to having a ‘why not me’ feeling. So, to answer how she got lucky? Well, she either met a sensitive, patient and knowledgeable man, or she met a man that was smart enough to realize he needed to be taught, and she taught him.
Speaking of which, in order to teach, you must know, and sadly many women don’t know what sexual pleasure is. Yes, it may feel good or be great exercise, but wouldn’t it be great to have the same intense feeling as a man when he’s had an orgasm? Men seem to have orgasms so easily. Well, a knowledgeable woman knows how to please herself first. If you can’t please yourself, don’t expect a man to. Though pleasing a man is fairly simple, and most woman can attest to that, pleasing a woman takes more time and more variety.
There are more differences between women than between men when it comes to pleasurable sex, and a woman must know how to give herself pleasure before she can require it of a man. And she should require it of him. Sex should be more than just the emotional feeling of “He cares for me.” He should care enough to please you in the same way he’s pleased, and it isn’t just emotional either! When he’s had his orgasm, he’s on the highest of clouds and you should be there with him.
As a woman you may need to do some self-discovery in the comfort of your own bedroom. Discover your body so that you can communicate to your lover what makes you feel good. Be patient in the discovery process, because face it, women do take longer to reach orgasm than men. Touch yourself as you would like to be touched. All women are different; men are not so different. Remember this: you can’t teach, show, or tell if you yourself don’t know. Basically, men are somewhat ignorant about a woman’s pleasure, so he needs all the real help he can get. Don’t be afraid of the feelings that go through your body! They are perfectly natural and your body doesn’t want you to stop. This process is a must if you really want to get the most from your relationship with your partner. Both of you will appreciate sex more if you are satisfied too.
And if both of you are enjoying sex, who cares who’s jealous?! They should be learning instead of envying.
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Sun Nov 11, 2007
Stupid Foreign Men Led By Sex!
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Stupid Foreign Men Led By Sex!
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Judging by the physical appearance and personality of many foreign men, most of those who marry Japanese women have had few sexual experiences in their native country. Once a foreign man comes to Japan, he “gets lucky” with a Japanese girl, gets “p**** whipped,” gets married, and then gripes about the lack of sexual ‘intimacy’ after he realizes she isn’t as “interested in sex.” One might wonder to what degree the Japanese woman was really intimate or interested in sex at all.
A special note for Japanese women reading this and thinking: “Western men just aren’t mature,” You are 100% wrong! Men are just men, and all over the world, including Japan, they want sex.
Here are the facts: women want sex, and men want sex. However, men and women want sex for different reasons. When you check your dictionary (an English dictionary is preferred), you’ll find that different does not equal immature, just as different does not equal, bad. Next, check your dictionary for “mature.”
Men are different, women are different, that’s life. It’s difficult for men or women to look at life, or ideas like “mature” in exactly the same way because they are different. There is a possibility that some men and women may understand each other better because we are creatures that think, but the fact is, we are different.
For western men married to Japanese women, these are your options:
a. Be honest with your Japanese spouse about your sexual desire.
b. For those married in “Christian weddings,” remember your marriage vows state “for better or worse.” If this is the “worse” part, then tell her about it. You may have to live with it. Realize that most Japanese people aren’t Christians, and that the wedding is a show, entertainment, and has no moral value; this is also true for many Christians.
c. Seek counseling together. Let her know your dissatisfaction and don’t expect her to change. From limited observation, Japanese women don’t often change their sexual attitudes with their western husbands. She might change with counseling, but do not expect it.
d. Tell her that you will seek sexual satisfaction elsewhere.
e. Get a divorce.
For unmarried men reading this, do your homework before you marry a Japanese woman. Expect that your sex life will decline just as statistics indicate. Expect it and don’t complain about it.
The better option is to talk about your expectations of marriage - before you get married. Then, as two adults you can make a better decision. Before marriage be focused on your Japanese lover’s sexual pleasure first, her pleasure before your own, but tell her very straight and direct, “If we get married, I’ll divorce you if our sexual life changes.” If she decides to marry, she knows what your expectations are. Be direct with your Japanese lover before you get married.
Japanese women and western men need to study each other’s culture before they marry.
Western men have more of a responsibility to study the Japanese culture, because in many cases, the Japanese woman living in Japan won’t bother.
A final word, men should look at the sexual statistics about Japan, which quite clearly state that just about every woman in the world has more sex than Japanese.
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Mon Sep 10, 2007
Chocolate, Shopping, & Sex
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Chocolate, Shopping, & Sex
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Few women want to get fat and waste money. But millions of women do it all the time by eating chocolate and getting fat, and by buying clothes that they then get tired of. It’s like an addiction, with the end result being an emotional emptiness that has to be satisfied again to the detriment of one’s waistline or pocketbook.
Curiously enough, it seems that women who are sexually satisfied don’t go on chocolate eating binges and shopping sprees as often. Keep in mind that sexual satisfaction and having sex aren’t equal.
Though eating pure chocolate does have some positive physical effects, there seems to be no substantial proof of its positive (aphrodisiactic) impact on a woman’s sexuality. The same can be said for shopping; it has no proven influence on sexuality. Though wearing something new makes a woman feel attractive for a while, many women have closets full of clothes and shoes that haven’t been worn for ages. Given the potential for the negative outcomes of weight gain and financial ruin, why do women indulge themselves?
In Tokyo, Japan where it can be said that Japanese women are the most ardent of shoppers of brand name clothing and expensive chocolate, lies a potentially interesting study.
Depending on whom you choose to believe, Japanese men aren’t very considerate when it comes to sexually satisfying their female lovers. So, for many women, sex is just another “to do” list task with one’s boyfriend or husband. But, given all the specialty chocolate stores in Tokyo, and taking into account the belief that chocolate is an aphrodisiac, then it would be safe to conclude that Japanese women should be sex maniacs! Well, Japanese women are definitely not sex maniacs, and surprisingly they aren’t so fat either.
In fact, many of them seem to have a marginal, if not total, lack of interest in sex compared to western women. In Japan it’s easier to believe that eating chocolate dulls or eliminates the interest in sex. For example, let’s note that a declining birthrate among apparently healthy people means there’s probably no sex. In light of the of the appearance that chocolate isn’t an aphrodisiac, perhaps Japanese men should control or tax the sale of chocolate as they do cigarettes.
In Japan, famous brand clothing stores earn fortunes filling up women closets with clothes and shoes. A woman has to get her emotional satisfaction somewhere and buying something new is what many do. A Japanese woman once explained that shopping makes her feel “good and comfortable.” While the clothes do make her feel good, perhaps that feeling influences her appearance, thereby making her look more attractive, resulting in more attention from others. Wanting attention from others is what lies at the core of nearly everyone, and, generally, women do want attention from men.
Here is the story, after the new clothes are put on, men give a woman attention due to the woman’s improved self esteem and behavior. After she chooses one (that’s right, in the beginning the woman choose the man) the courtship begins. Then comes sex. If the woman is lucky, sex is good and temporarily the chocolatiers and clothiers lose out.
However, the sad truth for many women is that the sex isn’t so good, much of the time. So the Japanese woman weighs bad sex against loneliness and wanting financial support for a ‘carefree lifestyle.’ Bad sex often wins out, and the chocolatiers and clothiers stay in business, as a woman needs to be fulfilled somehow. In return the man gets ‘permission’ to have bad sex occasionally (or a little more often it’s satisfactory), and receives a cook, children, maid service and the responsibility to pay for it all with longer working hours.
So in the end, the only thing that changes is who for pays the chocolate and clothes. Though from a western woman’s perspective the Japanese wife sometimes becomes an underpaid and disrespected maid, nanny, and part-time prostitute(as prostitutes don’t usually enjoy sex, they just earn money).
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Thu Aug 09, 2007
The Candy Store that Japan Built: Japanese Women, White Men, & Sex
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The Candy Store that Japan Built: Japanese Women, White Men, & Sex
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There is a segment of the Japanese female population that thinks having sex with a white man is ‘cool.’ Many of them, some married, aren’t interested in a relationship, only sex, and that’s it. For these women having sex is much like going to one of the famous American theme parks with locations in Japan and enjoying a roller coaster ride and cotton candy. She just wants to have the experience or the thrill of having sex with a Caucasian man, and lock it away in her memory. For the most part these women are educated, work respectable jobs and fit into Japan’s homogeneous society.
The opposite side of the coin is the hate that Japanese men have when they observe white men with ‘their’ Japanese women. The slightly humorous side to the Japanese man’s disdain is that Japanese advertising firms, which are run by (Japanese) men, unwittingly promote the desirousness of white men.
The love affair with Caucasian people is everywhere in the Japanese media, from white families with smiling faces and pearly white teeth selling homes and cars, to Japanese women with white men at chapels selling wedding services, to blond haired, blue-eyed babies selling cell phones. The Caucasian population in Japan is infinitesimally small, but Japanese advertising companies seem to love white people. No wonder the Japanese woman who has an almost insatiable desire for the new and ‘kawaii’ and ‘trying things different’ falls for the ‘mystique’ of white men.
More amazing is that some Japanese advertising executives aren’t aware enough to know the effect their advertising has on the (female) population. Some have even said that white talent is less expensive to obtain than Japanese talent as an excuse – what a ludicrous thing to say! A simple rule is: one is influenced by what is input into the brain. For example, take a look at the relationship between advertising and smoking to understand the results of effective campaigns.
Then, there is the shock of the Japanese woman who discovers that oftentimes the “white (man) knight, on a white stallion, in shining armor” is having sex with others and her thrill ride crashes. What she doesn’t realize is that the men are only sampling the sweets in the ‘Candy Store” built by Japanese advertisers and Japan’s love for white people. Let it be understood that this is a nationwide phenomenon, and not just the Roppongi area of Tokyo.
The erosion of the Japanese woman’s interest in Japanese men can be partially blamed on the advertising industry’s promotion of white as being “better”. Another part of the problem is that a significant number of Japanese men lack an understanding of what women want. So as the white men plunder and pillage the Japanese female population just as pirates, the Japanese man has no one to blame other than himself and the media.
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Thu Jun 21, 2007
Why Do Foreign Men Need So Many Women?
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Why Do Foreign Men Need So Many Women?
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Japanese women who have never dated a foreign man seem shocked when they consider how many girlfriends (lovers) a foreign man has at one time. Of course, Japanese women who’ve dated three or more foreign men feel that three or more girlfriends at one time is ‘many’. In either case, Japanese women appear to be more accepting of that possibility than Western women. The question almost all of them ask is, “Why so many?”
There seems to be acceptance that foreign men like sex more than Japanese men. However, the reality is that Japanese men appear to read more sexually oriented comics and magazines (in full view of women on public transportation and in buildings), and spend money on various sexual services. So the fact may be that Japanese men like sex as much as Western men, but don’t pursue sex as frequently in the form of relationships. Western men do more to maintain sexual frequency in their lives by having more than one girlfriend.
A look at statistics will show that women in other countries have more sex (not to say that they enjoy it more) than women in Japan which may be less than four times a month. In other countries three to four times a week is more common. Sexual desire isn’t reduced just because a Western man lives in Japan, so he seeks more lovers than the Japanese man.
Men from other countries face several challenges in having a sexual relationship in Japan. The workaholic lifestyle in Japan makes it difficult for a Western man to have a sexual relationship that is similar to what he may have had in his home country. Overtime is frequent and women often socialize with coworkers instead of returning home or meeting their lovers or husbands. With an average commute time of 40 minutes by train, which stop running around 2430, women are too tired or concerned about getting up early to get the train to go to work. Additionally, many Japanese men haven’t shown women how relaxing and stress reducing sex can be. Instead, men have centered on their own pleasure, and as such there’s no reason for many Japanese women to be really interested in sex. This is NOT saying most Western men are much better lovers, but the ‘ladies first’ attitude and generally being more sensitive goes a long way in seducing a Japanese woman. While there is a perception that Japanese women are sexual, the reality is that Western women are more sexual. Japanese women may be more sensual looking because of their smaller bodies and lower body fat, but that doesn’t equate with sexuality. Another possible challenge is that the Japanese female’s body can’t take the physical aspect of having sex with a foreigner as often. Generally speaking, foreign men are bigger and heavier.
Now the “Why?” may have been answered in regards to the number of women a man may have—but the truth remains that in the heart of most women regardless of culture, she only wants the man she cares about to be with her. However, given that the nature of the Japanese lifestyle and the fact that men are generally more sexual than women, this ideal is difficult for Western men for men to live up to.
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Sat Apr 28, 2007
Get to know her: Ask the right questions
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Get to know her: Ask the right questions
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Everyone loves a good listener and nearly everyone knows this, so why is it that men are often poor listeners in relationships?
Being a good listener seems to be less of a problem in the workplace than in the home. Listening to others is required at work to get tasks done correctly, and if something is unknown or unclear, questions are asked. That’s why communication in work relationships is often better than it is in personal relationships.
Having a good relationship with your partner isn’t difficult. Good relationships are built on selflessness, and one way to express that is by showing enough interest to ask questions about your partner’s life.
Think about it, what is the one thing that boyfriends (at the beginning of a relationship), detectives, doctors, lawyers, and salesmen, have in common? Well, the answer is, the good ones know how to ask the right questions.
Thoughtful questions show that a person has concern for someone or something. For example, a detective asks questions to discover the facts of a crime, a doctor asks questions to help them make a patient’s diagnosis, a lawyer asks questions to determine how the law can best protect their client’s interests, and a salesman asks questions so his customers purchase what they want and need.
Lastly, a boyfriend, notice I added, “at the beginning of a relationship”, asks questions, because everything is new, fresh and ‘interesting’ - and he wants sex!
In the beginning of a relationship, there are questions that cover who, what, when, where, which, why and why not, how, and ‘or’. Who was your favorite teacher in high school? What’s your favorite dessert? Where did you go for your best vacation? Which wine do you prefer? ‘Why’and ‘Why not’ questions are based on information you’ve gotten so far and help you know how she thinks. ‘How’ questions can be fact or emotion based, such as, “How long did it take...?” or “How do you feel about...?” These questions give her a chance to tell you her opinions about things. The ‘or’ questions give her choices.
Asking someone questions shouldn’t be an interrogation, it should merely be a way of showing genuine interest in the person you’re with. Time spent with your partner should be interesting, if it isn’t, discover ways to create interest and stop being bored. Boring is painful, and who wants that! Being interested in someone means learning who they are, not just on the surface, but deeper inside. This requires a little work on a man’s part. He must think enough of the other person to be observant and do a little ‘research’. Being observant can be tough for some men, but when you recognize and respond to situations or information that are interesting or helpful to her, it shows that you’ve paid attention to what she’s told you. You listened to her.
To put this in a sexual perspective, for the Japanese men (and perhaps a smaller percentage of Japanese women) who are interested in having more sex, the art of asking questions becomes very important. Mastering the skill of asking questions such as ‘How does it feel when I…?’ and ‘What would you like me to do?’ creates an atmosphere where women feel free to talk about what pleases them sexually.
My personal belief is that if sex isn’t satisfying for both partners, the male partner shouldn’t expect sex.
Statistically women are less satisfied with sex than men, and generally speaking, Japanese men don’t have a problem telling or ‘ordering’ women what to do sexually. They feel it’s their right as a man. However, recent surveys of Japanese women have shown that their response to this attitude is basically, “No, not interested.” And who can blame them?
Men can correct this situation by simply asking women what pleases them, and then listening to them and doing what they are told. Most women know what pleases them, but they are never asked about it. Many men believe that since they have a p****, they can please a woman, but this isn’t true in many, if not most, situations. This belief causes men to think they don’t have to ask women what would please them, because they think they already know.
A good information source for men who are too ‘shy ‘ to ask a woman directly about what pleases her is the Internet. Some men are more comfortable asking questions to a computer, than to a woman. In cyberspace, plenty of Japanese men and women are willing to share their knowledge on satisfying women sexually.
It’s very simple, all Japanese men have to do is to stop being self-centered, stop thinking they have the all the answers, and start asking the right questions…
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Fri Mar 30, 2007
The Awakening of the Japanese Woman
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The Awakening of the Japanese Woman
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Writers, filmmakers, and the general public have, for some time, been intrigued with the possibility of A.I. (Artificial Intelligence); so much so that serious concerns have been explored and dramatized regarding the theoretical and imagined problems that could be encountered with its reality. The concern most commonly expressed about the development of A.I. is whether there could be a potential for self-awareness, and then an ensuing struggle for recognition.
But, what should be of much greater concern to the Japanese public is the awakening of Japanese women’s intelligence, and their potential to become a force for change.
This very awakening may well be unfolding before the Japanese public, albeit very slowly, in the guise of an emerging, modern Japanese woman.
It wasn’t surprising when Japan’s Health Minister Hakuo Yanagisawa degraded women, in his comments decrying the country’s declining birthrate, by calling them “birth-giving machines”. Though many sectors of the public were in an uproar, calling for Mr. Yanagisawa’s resignation, I suspected it would never happen. The empirical evidence infers that many Japanese men feel as he does, and the majority of Japanese women would also concur that most Japanese men feel this way.
Leave it to a man to be blind to something clearly slapping him in the face! The Japanese woman has declared, “I don’t want to be a slave to husband, house, and child.” Women have said “Enough!” to caring for a husband who becomes a child after marriage, to the drudgery of housework, and to the non-support of Japanese fathers.
Compounding these issues, women lack equal job opportunities and commensurate pay when they want to return to the workplace. It seems that a resolution should be drafted that enforces both equality and opportunity in the work place. Unfortunately, men don’t see that as a solution, or they fear the repercussions from other men if they would offer, or support, such a proposal.
However, some of the responsibility for change rests with women. Japanese women have vented their frustrations to me, and when they’re finished I’ve respectfully responded, saying, “I understand your feelings, but I’m a foreigner. I can do nothing. What have you done to improve the situation?” Without fail, the answer I ALWAYS get is either a dumbfounded look, or the simple response of: ‘nothing’. Call me an American, but ‘whining’ never solves anything.
For the Japanese women who are so fond of all things American, they need only follow the rocky path carved out by women and African Americans in the U.S.
The one thing men love, no matter what their culture is – is money. It might be said that most men love money more than sex, because with enough money, sex can be bought. The Japanese woman’s status of equality will change when Japanese man see an economic incentive.
For example, if a large number of women in Minister Yanagisawa’s prefecture were to band together and declare, “We will never shop again, anywhere, on any Thursday”, the economic shock would be a reckoning force. Or, if women flooded his office with thousands of emails, the government’s servers might come to a grinding halt. Change is always more likely to occur when an economic impact is felt.
There is a segment of the female population that professes interest in becoming a married homemaker and rearing children. However, it’s sometimes difficult to determine if the true desire is to raise a family, or to escape the inequality and drudgery of the workplace. In all honesty though, it is a woman’s body, not a man’s that is designed for giving birth, and as such, the desire to have children is innate. But, to have that natural capability be compared to a machine demeans the responsibility that ultimately is a woman’s. It’s interesting to note that when people achieve success they give credit to mom first, and then, maybe, dad. So, this ‘machine’ is pretty darn important!
On a lighter note, perhaps Japanese men should be more wary of the awakening of self-awareness in Japanese women (machines) than the theoretical awakenings of any A.I.
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Sat Feb 10, 2007
Hey Guys, Make Her Laugh at YOU
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Hey Guys, Make Her Laugh at YOU
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While it may be said, “The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach”, and looking at the size of the stomach on many men one might agree, a way to a woman’s is throughhumor. Humor doesn’t mean silly, laughing-on-the-floor jokes, but the kind that brings a smile or a chuckle to the face. You’ve done a good job if she says “Ooh, that’s cute” or, “I bet you think you’re funny, but you’re not” as she’s smiling all the while.
Why is this so important? First, it’s a way to get women to like you. Women feel comfortable around a man that makesthem smile. I can’t explain why having a sense of humor works, but it does. Ladies, please forgive me, but, there’s also a saying, “If you can make her laugh, everything else is easy”. Now guys, that’s not always true, but the percentages are in your favor if you can.
Second, as a man you’re going to do something one day you wish you hadn’t. Okay, let’s just be straight, you’re gonna do something stupid! You need to build up some points, and humor is a way to do it. It’s really hard to be angry with someone who can make you laugh. If you can bring to mind that little thing you do that makes her laugh, especially when you know you’ve gotten on her last nerve, you may just save the day! I suggest that you do it evenw hen you know thatyou’re right about something but realize that being ‘right’ isn’t so serious. Just let it go! Both of you will be happy!
Some people think they don’t have a sense of humor, but I don’t know anyone who hasn’t smiled or laughed. The job is finding out what makes her smile and laugh! Okay guys, let’s get to work, put that thinking cap on and remember the last time you did something that made that ‘happy face’! I don’t mean the gift you bought her, but the cute thing you did or said or perhaps made with your hands.
Some hints: your first date, an occasion when you met some friends, some romantic situation. Did you do something while making love? These situations may bring to mind some action that you didn’t intend but that made her laugh, and by the way you too! Think, can you repeat that? If you can without making it looking rehearsed you’ve hit the jackpot.
If you can’t think of anything, there’s still hope! Try origami! Yeah, I know you think it’s for kids and but some of it is really difficult. But there are some simple things you can make and write little notes in them. Your lady will know you took the time to do something with her in mind. And, she gets to smile as she unfolds it with your note or just keeps it in her purse.
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Ansel Simpson is the author of “1001 Butterfly Kisses”: A guidebook for pleasing women, so simple even a man can use it! eBook available in English, Japanese and Chinese
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