Martin Shawne
I grew up in Seattle where I lived the first part of my life, the part I call “Pre-Japan”. I have always been an entrepreneur. While living in the states, I owned and operated a marketing and promotions company and a graphics design house.
My trip to Japan was a spur of the moment thing. My friend was going over there to meet up with his fiancé (who skated in the Ice Capades) and I thought it would be a fun adventure. Initially, I planned on being in Japan for only 6 months. I fell in love with the culture and the people and ended up living in Japan for 13 years.
While in Japan, I lectured at seminars and workshops, created a graphics design and web publishing business, and authored 5 books and over 100 articles.
In Seattle I was an average person with average looks, doing average things.
One thing I noticed in college was that my friends didn’t seem to have the right frame of mind towards starting, building, or maintaining a successful relationship (even if that relationship lasted only one night). I approached that aspect of life differently. It wasn’t about conquest. It wasn’t about numbers. It was about the quality of the moment.
Once while attending your typical college party as the designated driver for a group of friends, I saw a girl off in the corner sitting by herself. I went over and said hello. Turns out she was the designated driver for her group too. We talked to pass the time and exchanged numbers. I didn’t think anything of it until 3 days later when she called and we got together. We ended up having sex that evening.
When I moved to Japan, I noticed Westerners participating in the same failed attempts at relationships as my friends were engaged in back home. I spent 13 years in Japan learning the culture and the subtleties of dating Japanese women. I have had successful relationships with Japanese women. Some long. Some short. Some lasting only an evening. All wonderful experiences.
I dated some wonderful Japanese women and fell in love a couple of times.
When xanDer approached me to write some articles for his website, I was thrilled at the chance of sharing my Japanese women dating and relationship experiences with others. I hope my experiences will help you succeed at dating quality Japanese women.
