A Critical Look At A Relationship – The Bowling Alley Girl
When doing research for these articles I noticed that nowhere was a relationship dissected, from start to finish, for others to see the advice put into action. I have chosen seven of my relationships to dissect in hopes that you will gain from my successes and learn from my failures. This article is part 4 of 7.
Relationship length: One night
Japanese spoken: I used some Japanese but English was used for the most part.
Length of time in Japan before First Date: About 4 years
The Pre-Meeting:
I was at my neighborhood bowling alley, bowling alone. The bowling alley had a few customers but, for the most part, a lot of open lanes. A group of four college-aged women came in, all friends, and were assigned next to me with an empty lane between us. At first, all of my concentration was on my bowling (I take bowling very seriously), but when the women cheered my strikes and spares, I decided to join them.
The Meeting:
After one round of cheers, I turned around I gave an over-exaggerated bow, which resulted in laughter. I walked over and asked if I could join them. They asked if I bowled there often. I winked and laughed and said, “Yes, I am a bowling teacher”. There was a lot of physical flirting with a couple of the girls and I showed them how to hold the bowling ball and, with my excellent training, they kept the ball out of the gutter. One of them, on the other hand, did have her mind in the gutter.
Her English wasn’t great but she would ask say things like “Do you like Japanese girls?” and “We are sexy.” (as she wiggled her butt). She was extremely playful and she was one of the most extroverted Japanese women I had ever met.
The Relationship:
The bowling wound down. I asked if they had other plans that evening (it was around 8 pm). Two of the women said something and left. The Extrovert girl said, “Do you like party? We are very sexy Japanese girls.” (Said playfully. Her friend punched her in the arm, obviously not amused).
We went to a nearby bar and had a couple of drinks. There were a few subtle sexual innuendo actions with very not so subtle spoken broken English attached by Ms. Extrovert. Her friend was getting visible embarrassed and annoyed and left.
After her friend left (who was actually more my type and I was kind of sad to see her go), I asked “Have you ever had sex with an American?” She answered no. I continued, “Do you want to?”
The End:
It was fun. I never intentionally had a one-night stand before. I’m more of a relationship guy. I did ask if we could meet again. She mentioned she had a boyfriend but maybe sometimes we could hook up. We never met again.
